different friendships

I like where I am right now. Friends from America and China are both nice to me here. I seem to have different file cabinets for each of them...It's like a cool filing process from which you know how to express yourself and when to listen to and how to react. I'm not trying to wear masks to treat people. It's only because they are different.

Yesterday when two from each file cabinets met and reminded me of the differences again. When they talked about going out and having fun, my American favorite one said to my Chinese friend that she should come with us. My Chinese friend was very happy about that and wished that she could have come. I understand that in America it's very common and natural to ask your friends to go to another friend's party or other occasion...but it's totally different in China if I'm not too far from China to remember what happens there. So when my Chinese friend (who is a very social and warm one) goes to her friends' parties or other activities, I'm never invited. That doesn't mean that we are not close. We are very close when we are at home. I think that's the difference. Americans like to mix their life into such a whole and consistent way that they connect everything while the Chinese always try to make a difference between their life, school, and work, name as many as you want, they're just isolated from the others.

That's like a untold but widely-known rule. So when I dated my ex-boyfriend since I was a sophomore, people told it's gonna be hard if both of you were from the same class, which I found later as true. School and personal life can be mixed and 'messy' together.

Interpersonal relationship is such an interesting stuff that you can easily say how but hardly able to explain why.

That's probably what life should be. Different.